Great advice for all relationships ‘’For one assignment, Patchett called every happily married person she knew to ask for one pro tip on maintaining a successful union. The advice she got from her stepmother has stayed with her ever since.  “[She] told me that the brain naturally focuses on what is wrong, what it doesn’t like—towels on the floor, or somebody who interrupts, or somebody who’s late,” Patchett, 59, says. “And so then, every time your partner does that, it’s just like hitting a gong.” The good things, by contrast, often go unnoticed or forgotten, her stepmother told her. “She said, ‘It is possible, with practice and discipline, to flip the equation.’”  The author sent a copy of the wedding-ceremony speech to her stepmother (who was married to Patchett’s father until he died and now has a boyfriend): “She said, ‘Oh, this is really good. I need to be reminded of this.’” https://lnkd.in/eFyXKx5D